💪 Commitment Creates the Change
💪 Commitment Creates the Change
For the longest time I thought I wanted to be a writer. I would hold the dream in the back of my mind, wondering when it would come to the forefront as I continued to pursue other worldly goals. And still, that dream sat there. It was always with me – as I read a new author’s words, or started (and stopped) writing stories of fiction. But I always had it in mind that one day, it would happen.
The thing is – I love writing. I still want to be a writer. Heck, I already AM a writer, but somehow the kind of writer I am aspiring to be lives somewhere in my mind (rent free, mind you) with a lofty ideal of what she does all day, of who she hangs out with, and how she shares her work with the world.
If my main goal truly was to drop it all and go full steam ahead on the writing thing, chances are I would have done it already.
It’s hard to kill your darling. And believe me, I am in no way shape or form admitting to doing that right here, right now. (I love you deeply, darling! Please don’t leave me!)
But here’s some real talk - dreams need more than a wishful nudge to sprout wings. They need guts, gusto, and a whole lot of gumption.
Sure, we can hope for life to magically align with our wishes. And often enough it does, (but that’s a whole other lesson plan!) For most of us normal humans, we need to grab that proverbial bull by the horns and COMMIT!
I can tell you all day long how I want to lose 10 pounds, but until you see me going to the gym or changing my diet, take my words with a grain of salt.
Change is hard. It is difficult to get started and can be hard to maintain, especially when we're not sure why we're even doing it. That's when we hit the brakes, feel stuck, or worse, spiral.
I get it. I’ve been there, too. Too many times to count! And only recently did I discover this handy little hack to separate the REAL dreams from the “nice-to-have” dreams.
It’s called Commitment. Yes, with a capital C.
That, my friends, is the difference between where you are today and where you say you want to be.
So, where is your commitment today? Do a quick audit. Scan through your day, your week, your month – what are you truly committed to? Is it your job, your kids, your bills? For me, it's my cat first, taxes second. Literally in that order. I don’t know, I can’t explain it.
So what are you committed to?
Once you’ve cleared that up, I’ve got a handy little 5 step process to actually implement changes in your life, one-step-at-a-time. Here you are.
A Handy 5 Step Process to Change
Step 1: Clarify what it is you want to change.
Ditch the vague "become a writer" goal. Ask yourself, "What's crucial to me right now that deserves my full attention?"
Again, this is not “become a writer” or “learn French” which somehow you’ve failed to do for the last 10+ years. This is getting honest with yourself, “What is really important to me in my life right now that I am willing to pay special attention to for a little while and see if I can truly hack it?” Write THAT down.
Step 2: Visualize the benefit.
Understand WHY that change will benefit you. Imagine your life post-change. Who are you being and what are you doing in this new reality in place? Why does it matter?
Step 3: Say "No" to make room for "Yes."
Every "yes" to change means a "no" to something else. Prioritize what matters.
Here’s an example: If I want to spend more time with my husband in the evenings after dinner, then I am saying “yes” to spending more time together, deeper connection, more intimacy, and I am saying “no” to working late, reading that can’t-put-it-down novel on my bedside table, or having dinner out with friends. There’s always a balance – saying YES means saying NO. (Pro Tip: Saying “no” to something you don’t want to do also let’s you say “yes” to things you do want!)
Step 4: Commit like never before.
Don't just nod along. Declare, "YES – I'm all in for this change!" Say it aloud in the mirror. Tell your friends. Tell your family. Believe yourself when you declare it.
Step 5: Craft your game plan.
Change without a plan is like a cat without a nap – it just doesn't work. Plan it like a project. What habits, behaviors, or steps will it take to create the change you want? What daily actions can you take to create the shift?
Here's my advice? Begin with a 30-day experiment to start. Check in with yourself to see how it’s going, and iterate.
Et voila. There’s your no-nonsense, no fluff change plan!
Ready to dive into change headfirst? What's the one thing you're ready to commit to? Hit reply and let me know!
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