The Rush of the Year Has Begun to Settle, Now it’s Time for the Seeds of Growth to Sow

The rush of the “new year new me” is over and the depth of who we are and who we hope to become starts to settle in and around us. Here in London it feels like the season is already beginning to change – daylight peaks its head earlier and sticks around just a bit longer in the evenings, with more sunshine coming through than in the depths of December. The birds have returned from their migratory settlements and there’s a sudden flourish of activity in the animal kingdom, while us humans continue to bundle up inside – holding on to the warmth even as the temperature outside heats up, ever so slightly.

I feel a great sense of relief knowing that the early signs of spring are showing and that it won’t be much longer until I am spending lazy afternoons sitting in Hampstead Heath, watching in awe as ravens and dogs and foxes run about freely together on the open hillsides of the park.4

And while the tides change all around me, so too do they change within. I feel a strong sensation of settling into myself – a beautiful, calm stillness inside, an allowing.

Last year was a point of inflection for me. The person who I’ve always been gave way to who I am (still) becoming. I realized I no longer want to hustle, strive, and try so hard to make things work how I think they should. Even with such a strong idea of “right” and “wrong” things so often did not work out how I expected. I realized how much I was trying to control myself, my environment, and everything happening around me. There was no room for gentleness, ease, kindness, or even compassion – not for me and certainly not for others.

I could finally start to identify and recognize these patterns and behaviors, which have long been with me, and I decided I did not wish to carry them forward any more.

As Dr. Joe Dispenza says in his book Becoming Supernatural – if you wake up every single day in the same way, following the same routine, habits, thought patterns, etc, you will continue to reinforce your identity of who you are. When you start your day with the same cup of coffee, the same thoughts about your boss, the same feelings about your partner or your parents, you continue to enforce what you’ve always believed and who you’ve always been.

Well, what if you woke up tomorrow and instead of a cup of coffee to begin the morning, you first went for a walk around the neighborhood. Or instead of feeling a familiar sense of dread about everything that you’ve got to do that day, you let yourself imagine walking on the sand in your favorite beach in the world – just close your eyes and imagine it now. See how good that feels?

We wake up with a choice every day, whether we realize it or not. We can choose to let today play out the same as every day before, believing in the natural order of things and feeling helpless (and hopeless) to its steadfastness, or we can decide that we’d like to consciously experience something different. And then we can wake up and intentionally rewire our thoughts to focus on what we truly desire most in our lives from the very first moment we open our eyes – regardless of who shares a bed with us, who’s waiting in the next room for breakfast, or what stress our colleague might bring to us later in the day.

My clients find it hard to believe (and believe me, so did I!) that we are always at choice in our lives. We choose consciously every single day who we want to be, how we want to be, and what we let impact us. We do this every single day – the same way that those around us do. They consciously choose to be happy, frustrated, sad, angry, grateful, helpless, hopeless, hopeful, encouraged, and the list goes on.

This may not be the message you want to hear today – sometimes it can be difficult to acknowledge the role we play in our own lives (especially when it can be so much easier to pretend the fault lies with someone else!) But perhaps it is the exact message you need to hear – right in this very moment.

The more I feel like a victim to my circumstances, like things are happening to me and like I can’t control my environment – the more things continue to frustrate and overwhelm me. The more I feel like I have a choice to feel grateful or joyful, even if my daily experiences don’t necessarily reflect that joy, the more I am able to feel good, wherever I am today, and feel optimistic about what’s to come tomorrow

Today I am choosing to see the beauty of the unknown road ahead, trusting myself to follow my heart and my intuition forward on my journey, and believing that the right support will show up (as it always has) when and how I need it – if not necessarily always how I want it.

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